A few Sundays back our pastor gave a sermon on connection. At the tale end of his sermon he outlined six practical steps to connecting with others. I wrote them now for me and for you because when it comes down to it, we can all work on being better people.
1) Identify those who may need your connection.
Although when we're honest with ourselves everyone needs connection. Challenge yourself to find talk with the quiet girl who sits behind you in History, share a smile with the lady at the checkout at the grocery store, make an effort to reach out.
2) Do not wait for them to act first.
"Always do what you are afraid to do." -Ralph Waldo Emerson
3) Communicate.
Easier said than done. Start with a smile, then a hello.
4) Empathize.
No one is perfect, when it comes down to it we all share in the same struggles, pains, and joys.
5) Listen.
Listen when rearranged makes the word silent. Listen by being silent.
6) Respond with a gift.
Lunch at their favorite restaurant, homemade cookies, or my personal favorite a handwritten note.
So true, Northwood Jane! People will really share their lives, pain, joy and hurt with you if you only give them room to speak. And you can start friendships and relationships that will last for a lifetime if you can only learn to patiently listen and understand others! :)
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